Triumph Over Trauma!

Be proud of you: Acknowledging Personal Victories Amidst this Year's Challenges

December 31, 2023 Eve Mcnair
Triumph Over Trauma!
Be proud of you: Acknowledging Personal Victories Amidst this Year's Challenges
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 It's like we all had the same year! A silent struggle to Triumph despite life's Trauma. So today I'm inviting you into a space of reflection and recognition. We're not just surviving; we're acknowledging our strength and progress, no matter how small.  I pray that you are encouraged as you listen and find inspiration in some of the resources provided in the show notes, including books and therapist details that aid our healing journey. Together, let's close this year inspired and, ready to embrace new adventures with hope and faith in the one who always causes us to Triumph!

  •  What is Trauma?                                                                                                                                               Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.  An emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape, abuse, or natural disaster.     
  • How to cope with Trauma                                                                                                               Talk to a few trusted people, open up about your struggle, seek online support groups, read self-help books or practice small acts of self-care such as meditation, breathwork, yoga and exercise can help you regain some feeling of control.”
  • Find a therapist                                                                                                                                               Get Started (betterhelp.com)
    Online Psychiatric Medication & Mental Telehealth Services - Rx Anxiety, Depression & Insomnia Treatment | Cerebral  

  • Triumph Over Trauma Scripture:  II Corinthians 2:14 Now thanks be unto to God, who always causes us to Triumph in Christ....   
  • Books I'm reading on my healing journey

It Didn't Start with You! - How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes who we are, & how to end the cyclehttps://a.co/d/f22BoLk

Home Coming- Thema Bryant   
https://www.amazon.com/dp/059341831X/ref=cm_sw_r_em_api_i_TE4YHJQ63FA21362FP79

The Body Keeps the Score -  https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143127748/ref=cm_sw_r_em_api_i_HXH4RMNC329DT7VPQ5WG
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2 Corinthians 2:14 Now thanks be unto God, who always causes us to Triumph!

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2 Corinthians 2:14 Now thanks be unto God, who always causes us to Triumph!

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Hey y'all, welcome to Triumph Over Trauma, the podcast. Listen y'all. I created this podcast because, like so many other people, I've had a traumatic past. I didn't always realize how those things affected me negatively and how I even carried them into my adult life, and so I wanted to create a space where other people could come and we could have candid conversations on how you identify trauma, how you navigate it and how you recover from traumatic experiences. And this resonates with youth. And join me. I am your host and trauma survivor, ms Eve McNair. Let's get into it. Hey guys, what's up? Welcome back to Triumph Over Trauma. Listen, life has life. This year for me like no other, and one of the things that I found most challenging as I was navigating this year was the ability to give myself some credit, the ability to be proud of the winds, or be as proud of the winds I've had as I am as serious about the losses. Right, sometimes you're more serious about the losses that you've taken or you've experienced than you are as passionate and adamant about the winds that you've had. Sometimes you're not as proud of them, or sometimes you don't speak about them the way that we speak about our failures or disappointments. I want to say to you that I'm very proud. I am proud of how you've navigated this year. I'm proud of how you've handled those ups and downs. I'm proud of how you've handled the setbacks, the discouragement, the warfare. It has been great. This year, for me personally, was one of the most intense years for me. So many unpredictable things happened, things that I thought that I couldn't get past, things that I wasn't sure that I would be able to navigate. By the grace of God, I have literally come through another year. When I reflect back on this year, there are a lot of things that I think that I could have done better, that I could have done more. There are some things that I'm not proud of, but there are also lots of things that I'm happy about. I'm happy about my endurance this year. I'm happy about my persistency this year and my consistency. Although it wasn't as strong, as dedicated as I would have liked, I'm still proud of the fact that I showed up every day, that I got up every day and did something with the time and space that God has granted me, and I think, if you were one of my listeners, I trust that this has been the same for you. You have tried your very best. You've given it your all, day in and day out. No matter what has come your way, you have continued to keep going and you've continued to keep pressing your way, and I'm so proud of you for that. I don't think that we take enough time to pat ourselves on the back to give ourselves credit. There's a scripture in the Bible that talks about David and how he encouraged himself in the Lord, and sometimes we are so good at encouraging others, we're so good at admonishing others, we're so good at pushing others and being there, showing up for others, but we fail to do the same for ourselves. And sometimes, at the end of the year, we're looking back on like, what do I have to show for myself? And I wanna encourage you by saying you're here, you made it through another year, you made it through what seemed to be impossible. So many different silent battles that you have had to fight, you know, unbeknownst to others. So many things, times where you've literally had to cry and say a prayer and keep going and pretending, in some cases, that everything was okay when your world was falling apart. So I'm proud of you for that. I'm proud of how you've continued to smile although your heart was hurting. And I want to say to you that you no longer have to do that, that if you feel whatever you feel, it's okay to take a moment and stop and embrace that feeling, because you've made a lot of strides and I can't express to you enough the importance of being proud of yourself. I can't express to you enough the importance of patting yourself on the back. I can't express to you enough how important it is to do some self-reflection on what you did accomplish. We often park at what we didn't accomplish. We are often stake out at our failures. We stake out at the things that we could have done better and although they are constructive and conducive to improvement, right, it's not all about what we didn't get right. It's not all about what we could have done better. Sometimes it's important to note the fact that we showed up. Sometimes it's important to note the fact that we kept going. It's important to note the fact that we didn't give up and even if we had to do it alone, even if we had to do it with tears in our eyes, with broken hearts, with confusion, with so many navigating so many different things, we still did it, we still tried, we still put forth effort, we still did our best, and we need to be proud of that. As this year comes to a close, I want your reflection to be that of pride, and not in an arrogant, negative way, but in a way where you boost your self-esteem, where you boost your confidence, because where are you going? Because of what you endured this year, it's looking up for you. You've endured a lot this year. You've navigated so many silent battles, like I said before, and it's looking up from you here on out, and I know that we live in an age where there are so many different voices who were offering prophetic insight and saying you know that the Lord said that they're going, he's going to do this in 2024. And he's. You know, this is the year that this is going to happen and that is going to happen. But I want this to be the year where you learn to take pride in yourself, to take pride in your effort and to know that it does get better, because you are getting better every day that you put one foot in front of the other. You're getting better, you're progressing, you're growing, you're developing, you are maturing, and this year helped you do that, regardless of If you even had a chance to acknowledge it. Sometimes we're so busy in survival mode that we don't give ourselves the time or we don't take the time that's necessary to realize. Wait a minute. I've come through some stuff. I've experienced some things that nearly took me out, that threatened my sanity, that threatened my peace of mind, that threatened my finances, that threatened my well being, but I still survived and for that I'm grateful, and I only am I grateful. But I'm proud. I'm proud of me, I'm proud of what God has done in me and through me and with me, and I want you to have that same heart filled posture. I want you to have a posture full of happiness and self reflection on what you did accomplish, on what you did get to do, because that's what's going to carry you into this next year, when you look back on this year and you say if I can get through that year, if I can get through the heartbreak, the, the catastrophes, the Inflation, the cost of living adjustments, if I can get through that, then I can make it anywhere with the grace of God. You know this description, bible for the theme that says I can do all things to Christ, who strengthens me. And sometimes we are so busy asking God for strength to just to get through it. When he brings us to it, when he gives us the strength to get through it, we forget to look back and say, first of all, thank you, father, that you strengthen me, and thank you because I didn't give up on me, even when I wanted to right, even when I wanted to throw in a towel, I didn't and I made it in. The Bible says that the race is not given to the swift, but it's given to the one that endured to the end. And you have endured to the very end. You've endured this year. You've endured so many challenges, so many difficulties, so many silent battles that nobody knows about, but you've endured. And so I'm proud of you. I'm so proud of you and what you've done and I want you to be proud of yourself. I want you to take that confidence and that self esteem into the your next year, because you're going to reap rewards in the next year for what you did this year. I believe that wholeheartedly. I believe that God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him, but he's also a rewarder of those who don't give up. He's a rewarder of those who continue. Like I said. If that scripture is true, that the reason I give to the swift, the one who endured to the end, then you've won some races this year and it's reward time. You just yet to be rewarded. I hope that one of the rewards that you give yourself is gratitude, it's self love, it's self confidence, is pride in yourself and knowing that I did it. I did it in spite of how difficult it was, how lonely it was, how challenging it was. I did it, and I'm doing it by the grace of God, day by day, day by day, and don't compare yourself to others. Well, it looks like they got further where. It looks like they did more, they accomplished more. They, they, they gleaned more, they received more you will receive based on what you've done. I think one of the things that is challenging, especially for trauma victims, is the ability to be proud of ourselves, the ability to count our rights just as well as we count our wrongs. I think we so often get accustomed to being victimized by the circumstances we've gone through, that sometimes we keep ourself in those states, in those mindsets, in those mentalities, in those dispositions when, when we should be proud of ourselves, we should give ourselves more credit. Nobody knows what you've had to fight. Nobody knows in detail the way that you do what you've had to endure. Nobody understands that, the way that you and God does. And so because you know that, because you have firsthand experience, firsthand knowledge of what you've endured, what you've gone through, what you've experienced and what it was like to navigate, that you should be proud of who you are. There are some people who have gone through what you've gone through, who experienced what you experienced this year alone, who did not make it, who threw in the town, who gave up, you know, who literally just were wiped out. Can we just talk about how tough this year was? I don't know if it was just me or not, but this year was tough. This was one of the most challenging years for me mentally, physically, financially, spiritually. This was a tough year for me, if I'm honest right. I fought a lot of silent battles. I experienced a lot of warfare that I was not ready for, right, but also navigating different parts of life that were so unpredictable. And as the year came to a close, or as the year is coming to a close, as the year came to a close, I just begin to be thankful like whoo, thank God, I made it to the end of year. I made it to the end of year. I made it to the end of the year, but I've failed to even take it. I've failed to even take in consideration that I made it. I literally made it. I made it through some things that nobody even knew I was going through. I made it through some battles that nobody understood that I was fighting. I made it through some things that literally almost compromised my peace of mind, but I still made it, and I feel like that is a temperature check for so many people. So many people fought things this year, went through things, experienced things that were devastating to them, and whether they hit it or whether they just suppressed it or whatever the case may be, they still went through it. And I think sometimes we forget to take into consideration what it takes to actually live, what it takes to actually get through. Everybody talks about making it, everybody talks about surviving it and getting over it, but seldom people talk about that in between space of actually overcoming, of actually facing or confronting what you're facing and actually trying to think over it. There were so many things for me that were difficult this year. There were so many things that I experienced, that I went through, that I couldn't even actually put into words or express to anybody Not that I wanted to purposely suppress them or keep them or hide them, but they were just difficult to navigate, and before I could even put them in words I had to actually sit with them and process them myself. But life kept lifeing, even in the midst of what I was trying to navigate right. Life goes on, and so I'm proud of the fact that, even in the midst of all that I was going through, all that I was experiencing, all that I was navigating, I'm proud of the fact that I'm still here. I'm proud of the fact that my mind still works, that my heart still works. I'm proud of the fact that I can still love, I can still feel people, sense them and touch them and meet and anticipate their needs. I'm proud of the fact that I'm still a good friend, a mother and person in general. I'm proud of that. Sometimes we don't take the time to be proud of ourselves. There's this misconception that if you take pride in yourself, you're arrogant or you're conceited or self-centered. But there's scriptures in the Bible where the Bible even speaks of David encouraging himself into Lord saying so, be encouraged, just speaking well of yourself, and it's so needed, I think. Some of the times where we find ourselves in places of despondency and sadness or grief, those are the times. Not only do we need others, but we need to also encourage ourselves and we need to be proud of how we've pulled through some of the worst times of our lives. But these are the things that sometimes are not taught. These are the things that are sometimes not talked about enough. We talk about the pain of it or the issue of it we talk about. Sometimes we focus more on the problem than the process. Right, it is a process to keep going every day. It's a process to get up. It's a process, and you need to be proud of your process. Not only do you need to be proud of your process, but you need to be proud of your progress. There's been progress that you made this year, whether it be slow, whether it be minute, whether it be minor. Don't compare your progress to anybody else's. You made progress this year because you kept going, because you're still here listening to this, so I'm proud of you. I hope you're proud of you. I hope you know that you can do all things through Christ, who strengthens you, and if you've gotten through this year, you can get through what's to come next year. I believe next year is going to be full of so much hope, so much peace and so much joy. I believe that there are so many people who've made it through so many different things and that God is going to reward them. I believe strongly that there is a remnant of people who have experienced some of the worst seasons of their lives, but kept going, and I think for those people, those are the people who need to take a moment and encourage themselves, and encourage them to be proud of how they've navigated, be proud of the fact that they're still here, be proud of the fact that they still love, they still care, they still go, they still have determination and grit. I think we should be proud of that. I think we should be proud of that, and so it's just as important to count your wins the way you count your losses. Sometimes, we just stay stuck on the losses. Oh, my God, I failed to do this, I didn't do this, I didn't do enough, I didn't do what I should. You know the shoulda, coulda, woulda. And, yes, there is always room for improvement, but there's also time. The Bible says that there's a time for everything, and there's time to reflect on what you did do well. There's time to reflect on how you did keep going. There's time to reflect on the fact that you still love, that you're still a good person, that you still show up in this crazy world. There's time for you and there's time for you to embrace you and to be proud of you and all your glory. For failures, feralties, angelic secreties and all, there's still time to make the most of who you are and to be proud of what you've done. So give yourself a little more grace. One of the things that my therapist has me working on is being kinder to myself, being a little bit more gentle to myself. Sometimes I have a tendency to be harder on myself, harder on myself than I should be right. Sometimes I forget to apply the grace that is so freely given to me by the Lord, and I can step my progress by not acknowledging the fact that there has been so good that God has accomplished through me and in me, and that I have stayed the course, especially when the course has not always been easy. And so I want you and it monitors you to do the same. Apply some of the grace that God so freely gives you and offers you today. Don't be so hard on yourself. Be kind, take your time with you. And again, I can't reiterate enough the necessity of taking stock of your positives, not just your negatives, taking stocks of your wins, not just your losses, right? So, as this year comes to a close, please know that, although you have so many things to take away, so many lessons that you've learned, whether it be through pain or heartache, or triumph or trial, you've learned and you're learning, and again you're growing. My prayer for you is that you can acknowledge that in the deepest part of who you are and begin to accept you for who you are, with love, with grace, with the comfort that you may not have always had, but that you can begin to embrace and be proud of you, regardless of what it may mean to anyone else. Don't ask anybody else for permission to be proud of you. Don't ask anyone else for permission to be kind or gentler to yourself. Don't ask anybody else for permission for what you know you need and deserve. Okay, guys, that's all I have for today. Listen. I pray that this was helpful. I pray that you know that you have so much to look forward to and so much to be proud of. I pray that this upcoming year is full of grace, peace, love, strength and joy. I pray that you get all that God has for you and more. Please know I am praying for you. Listen, if you'd like to be a part of the show to share your testimony, thought, idea or have a question, please check out the show notes. In each of the episodes You'll find links to contact me, or you could also peruse the show notes to find links to books I'm reading. Also find information regarding therapists and how to find one and any additional information that you may need. Listen, it's been my pleasure. Remember now. Thanks. Be unto God, who always causes us to triumph. God's second Corinthians, 10 and 13. Bye. God's second Corinthians, 10 and 13. God's second Corinthians, 10 and 13.

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